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[size=4][b]Pheromones for Women - Saying No to Toxic Relationships[/b][/size][hr]After the long cold days of winter, spring sings her chipper song. As I write this, I have brightly coloured tulips to gaze at happily in my garden. Spring is a great time to start eating healthier, lighter food, wear bright colours, and get outdoors. It also happens to be a great time to fall in love. Perhaps scientists will one day reveal a specific chemical that flies around in the spring air that gets super pheromone going. Who knows? Maybe they already have-but before you take that exuberant leap into a special someone's arms and fall head-over-heels, here are some suggestions to keep your head in the clouds, while your feet are firmly planted on the ground. :o.

[list][*]You've had a gut feeling that something was wrong from the very beginning [*]You feel "on edge" or get "the crazies" when you're with him and begin to doubt yourself and your judgment[/list]

[i]For the purposes of this short article however, I've compiled a list of signs that you should look for that will tell you whether your relationship is toxic:[/i]

[list][*]He has a bad relationship track-record [*]He makes you feel badly about yourself [*]He gawks at other women in front of you [*]He doesn't seem to care about what you have to say[/list]

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[size=large][b]This is Where the Therapy Starts and the Healing Begins[/b][/size][hr]Changing self-destructive relationship patterns is a long and difficult, and often frustrating process. But it is completely achievable if you have the courage, guidance, and stick-to-it-ness to do it. Because I am asked so often for help in this area and because I have been through this process myself and ended up in the best relationship I could ever have dreamed of, I wrote a self-help relationship workbook entitled, "Dump That Chump: A Ten-Step Plan For Ending Bad Relationships and Attracting The Fabulous Partner You Deserve". It's available on-line at: www.dumpthatchump.com.

My therapy practise, I work exclusively with women and what seems to make it over and over to the "top 5" list of most important topics in therapy without fail is how to be in a healthy relationship with a significant other. From my therapy chair, I hear countless stories of hopes dashed, hearts broken, and very often, women being abused verbally, emotionally, and physically. Their pain is often gut-wrenching, extremely palpable, and difficult to bear witness to. I sit there day after day looking at the most beautiful, intelligent, strong, and capable women -a great inspiration to me in my own life- who are paying me decent money to help them figure out why they keep picking the wrong guys and how they can stop feeling so miserable in relationships.

By the time they enter the therapy door, they have often reached a state of desperation and hopelessness. I can't tell you how many times I've heard women say, "That's it. I give up. I want to be in a healthy relationship but I'm not capable of it. I just keep repeating the same patterns over and over again and I never get what I want."

Quote:[list][*]The people who care about you most don't like him [*]You stop doing things you used to enjoy to be with him [*]You feel like you can't live without him and vice-versa[/list]
[size=4][b]Gay Pheromones - the Laws of Attraction and the Modern Dating Scene[/b][/size][hr]Useful, although reductive, theory on attraction comes from evolutionary psychology. It holds that we are drawn to others on the basis of our assessment of their reproductive fitness. We weigh up physical qualities (symmetry, health, youth, strength in men, child-bearing indicators in women), material possessions (wealth), social skills (status, charity, humour, confidence) and cultural factors (fashion, weight, skin tone, hair styles, body decoration). We have roughly standardized perceptions of 'attractive' individuals, though it can vary over history and in different parts of the world.

[size=large][b]An Available Person is Likely to Send Out the Right Signals When They are Self-Contented[/b][/size][hr]It is a clich, but a relevant one - when we can accept and love ourselves, we are in a good position to be accepted and loved by another. Inner confidence makes itself visible to potential partners. It is more convincing than 'fake' confidence (though sometimes in imagining ourselves confident, we can become it). This is why many happily committed individuals can be so appealing to others.

Quote:[list][*]Generally speaking, we select partners that are roughly similar to our own level of 'reproductive attractiveness' (measured in the wide sense).[*]This means that it is not only the most 'attractive' individuals who manage to form partnerships - there is someone for everyone.[/list]

[size=large][b]Various Factors can be At Play During the Initial Attraction[/b][/size][hr]Sometimes it begins as physical impulse - pheromones doing their work - and sometimes it starts as an emotional connection first. Usually it involves an implicit assessment of the other's suitability as a potential mate (genetic donor) and/or a long-term partner (protector of self and of future offspring). This entails a complex interplay of observation (often matching them up to our ideal, or even setting them up as an ideal), reaction (via chemicals and body language) and interaction. Wink

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An excellent book that deals with attraction from an evolutionary perspective is 'The Mating Mind: How Sexual Choice Shaped the Evolution of Human Nature' by Geoffrey Miller. His hypothesis is that a lot of how we conduct our lives e.g. high status jobs, creative work, being charitable or popular for example, sends signals to attract potential partners. Perhaps you may not have been interested in this passage on Pheromones. In that case, please don't spread this feedback around!

[size=large][b]Ideas about Compatibility Include 'Opposites Attract' and 'Like-Minded Attract'[/b][/size][hr]There seems to be clinical support for both positions. On the one hand we may be drawn to individuals who have characteristics we lack. They may reflect our shadow side - the elements that reside within us but which we refuse to acknowledge. They may also balance or complement our personalities. Some examples of differences include highly-driven v. relaxed, artistic v. scientific, sporty v. sedate and introverted v. extroverted. On the other hand, like-minded individuals may connect well because it widens the field of interaction, for example sports lovers can play and watch games together, and extroverts can socialize happily. What seems important in either of these positions is that the underlying core values are congruent. Ethical and social ideals tend to be matched in solid partnerships.

[size=large][b]The Man: Truth of the Visual Beign[/b][/size][hr]The article What Turns Them On explained about how men are visual being towards a woman's beauty. But don't go off thinking that all men are shallow just yet. They also seek long-term quality's in which good looks is not the #1 priority.

[size=large][b]The Long Term[/b][/size][hr]1. Personality 2. Good looks 3. Brains 4. Humor Now you can't change the fact that men use visual cues to decide a possible mate. Feminists can complain about it all they want but feminists can also not change the weather.

[list][*]When a woman takes the time to care about her physical appearance the man thinks that she wants him to be attracted to her.[*]In divorce one of the biggest complaints by men is that their wives stop upkeeping their appearance.[*]The men feel that the woman used her appearance like bait and then they no longer needed to take care of themselves after marriage.[*]A man will wonder why a woman dresses up for her work but not for him.[*]And for the woman she cannot comprehend why he would feel this way as she would love him no matter what he looks like. [/list]

[size=large][b]Good Looks in the Loooooooong Run[/b][/size][hr]Because a woman stops taking care of her appearance a man will unknowingly think that she no longer cares or loves him. Remember men are visual beings and that man found something beautiful in that woman.

Here is a list of what men usually look for in the short term and long term partner: A. At first sight 1. Good Looks 2. Shapely Body 3. Breasts 4. Butt.

One thing to notice is that the way a woman presents herself is more important then her having a sexy body. Remember Good Looks is ranked #1 in column A. This means that the way a woman dresses, wears her hair, presentation and grooming is more important then having a few pimples, a few extra pounds or small breasts.

[list][*]Still in a long term relationship personality, humor, and intelligence is much more important then looking like one of the Hawaiian tropic girls.[*]Good looks are ranked second in importance and you have complete control over that factor.[/list]

Perfumes are made up of a blend of different aromas that usually come from essential oils. Perfume formulations can be expressed in volumetric or weight proportions of each of its components. Perfumes today are being made and used in different ways than in previous centuries. Perfumes are being manufactured more and more frequently with synthetic chemicals rather than natural oils. Many natural and man-made materials have been used to make perfume to apply to the skin and clothing, to put in cleaners and cosmetics, or to scent the air. For people who want to make perfumes at home, weight measures present a problem since the average kitchen balance does not have the required precision. Using them will lead to unpredictable and non-reproducible results. Buying a more precise balance represents an added cost which is hard to justify for the present purpose.There are major fragrance categories - Floral, Oriental, Floriental, Chypre, Green Marine and Fruit.

Perfume is made from about 78% to 95% of specially denatured ethyl alcohol and a remainder of essential oils. Perfume is the costliest form of fragrance with 22% of essential oils. Perfume then came into widespread use among the monarchy. France's King Louis XIV used it so much that he was called the perfume king. Some plants, such as lily of the valley, do not produce oils naturally. In fact, only about 2,000 of the 250,000 known flowering plant species contain these essential oils. Therefore, synthetic chemicals must be used to re-create the smells of non-oily substances. Some perfume ingredients are animal products. Typical plant products include anise, bay leaf, bergamot, cardamom, cedar wood, eucalyptus, frankincense, gardenia, geranium, iris, jasmine, lavender, lemon, lilac, lily, lily of the valley, magnolia, moss, neroli, orange, orris, patchouli, pine, raspberry, rose, sage, sandalwood, tuberose, vanilla, violet and ylang-ylang.

[size=large][b]Perfume is Often Sold in the Run Up to Christmas as a Coffret Set At a Good Price[/b][/size][hr]Aromatherapy-smelling oils and fragrances to cure physical and emotional problems-is being revived to help balance hormonal and body energy. Animal substances are often used as fixatives that enable perfume to evaporate slowly and emit odors longer. Other fixatives include coal tar, mosses, resins, or synthetic chemicals. Alcohol and sometimes water are used to dilute ingredients in perfumes. The theory behind aromatherapy states that using essential oils helps bolster the immune system when inhaled or applied topically. Smelling sweet smells also affects one's mood and can be used as a form of psychotherapy. Humans, like other mammals, release pheromones to attract the opposite sex. New perfumes are being created to duplicate the effect of pheromones and stimulate sexual arousal receptors in the brain.